“With power comes responsibility.”
Unfortunately not everyone seems to understand this. A relationship is more like a companionship that involves physical, mental and emotional intimacy between two people. However, sometimes our emotions overpower the wrong doings of our partner, and we happen to overlook the injustice happening to ourselves.
Abuse is a very strong word, and its practice only makes a person weaker. However, emotional abuse is the most dangerous one. Sometimes we don’t even realise the changes we are going through, while we are in a relationship which might turn out to be very unhealthy for our individual self.
The reasons of emotional abuse can be inferiority, narcissism, ego, etc.
However the signs of emotional abuse are very subtle and we need to ensure that we keeping our individual respect intact, regardless of the intensity with which we love our partner.
Following are a few signs of emotional abuse.
- Your partner makes you feel incapable/unworthy/undeserving– He/she brings in the idea of self-doubt in your mind, which makes you feel very low of yourself.
- Your partner always prioritizes what himself/herself– You have a feeling of your partner being selfish.
- Your partner reminds you of his/her ex often- Your partner begins to compare you with his/her past relationships and how they were better than the present.
- Your partner is over possessive- You feel like you have almost given up on your individual space. Your partner has taken control over everything that you do, be it the least important aspect of your life. It is your partner who takes decisions and you don’t have a say.
- Your partner practises narcissist behaviour- The idea of him/her being the best, or never wrong. Your partner dominates you, the reason being his/her superiority in everything.
Relationships are very beautiful, but so are you. Not only it is difficult to go through emotional abuse, but it also gets difficult to be comfortable in being your own self. You begin to lose confidence in yourself and everything that you do. A vicious loop of things not working out forms, and you blame yourself for everything that happens, but your partner happens to take pride in your failure which only makes you feel worse. It also gets extremely difficult to get out of such relationships, because a person totally loses on his/her self-esteem. But it is very important.
Hence, if you feel your partner is emotionally abusing you, take the step further, and believe that you deserve better!